Finally!

Am finally practicing as a psychologist ;) However, the first week has been extremely crazy... clients, talks, presentations, article writing, and the list just goes on and on...

But I need to build my profile and I need to start somewhere... so this will be a very good opportunity to learn and better myself.

Therefore, have not been updating my blog... ;) Since I started work the following week after I finished my finals exams.

Shall try to update my blog whenever I can, maybe with the articles that I'll be writing ;)

New Year (2009-2010)

I've never believed in resolution(s)... because I tend to not follow them :p

However, this does not hinder me from having a good time during New Years... instead of planning one this year, am gonna go for those New Year parties held in hotels. They are fun and nothing much needs to be done.... except getting dolled up for the party... eat, drink and have fun... at the end of the party, I need not to drive home, but just get back upstairs to my hotel room and have a gooooood rest ;)

Now... what am I gonna wear... ;)

X'mas is coming!

The year end is the most happy times of the year because of Christmas and also the New Year... many celebrations, parties, food & drinks, gatherings, and fun!

Things to prepare for X'mas:

1. Christmas tree

2. Ornaments

3. Lights

4. Presents

5. Recipes for - Thanksgiving dinner / lunch

6. Decorations

7. Outfits ;)

8. Parties!!!

Some items mentioned above can be made by yourself if you have the time :), such as

- Recipes (http://recipes.kaboose.com/holidays/christmas-recipes/christmas-recipes.html)

- Christmas ornaments, decoration or gifts (http://www.diynetwork.com/topics/christmas/index.html)

- Party ideas (http://www.celebrations.com/christmas-party-ideas)

- Company (http://www.orangezp.com.my/)

I guess I've just planned an X'mas party ;) hahaha... happy planning yourself!

Waiting...

Read this book many years back... introduced to many of my friends and most of them gave me good feedback ;) So am now introducing to the rest, if you all don't already know.

The plot revolves around the fortunes of three people: Lin Kong, the army doctor; his wife Shuyu, whom he has never loved; and his girlfriend at the hospital where he works, the nurse Manna Wu. Beginning in 1963 and stretching over a twenty-year period, Waiting is set against the background of a changing Chinese society. It contrasts city and country life and shows the restrictions on individual freedoms that are a routine part of life under communism. ButWaiting is primarily a novel of character. It presents an in-depth portrait of a decent but deeply flawed man, Lin Kong, whose life is spoiled by his inability to experience strong emotions and to love wholeheartedly.

http://www.enotes.com/waiting/

Married life...

It's been a while ;) yeap... registered our marriage on the 3rd of November :)

Everybody kept asking me, whether there is any difference after getting married? I'd say no... I guess we've been living with each other for so many years. We sorta like married even before being legally married. So when now that we are, it does not feel a thing.... wait... except we feel more responsible towards each other because this is for real :p

But I've also been hearing and reading about married life... some say

1) its very different, it's not what you expect.... (come to think of it, what do people expect? I wonder)

2) they don't care anymore

3) they become worse

4) it's not a bed of roses (life is not a bed of roses)

5) they criticize you

6) they don't take you out anymore

7) they are not proud of you anymore.... (and the list just goes on...)

But I think it's all what you make out of it. It's not all in your control, but you can still control how you feel and deal with things ;)

How Do You Feel About Yourself? (Janda, 2001)

The Self-Esteem Rating Scale

This questionnaire is designed to measure how you feel about yourself. There is no right or wrong answer.

1 = Never

2 = Rarely

3 = A little of the time

4 = Some of the time

5 = A good part of the time

6 = Most of the time

7 = Always

1. I feel that people would not like me if they really knew me well.

2. I feel that others do things much better than I do.

3. I feel that I am an attractive person.

4. I feel confident in my ability to deal with other people.

5. I feel that I am likely to fail at things I do.

6. I feel that people really like to talk with me.

7. I feel that I am a very competent person.

8. When I am with other people I feel that they are glad I am with them.

9. I feel that I make a good impression on others.

10. I feel confident that I can begin new relationships if I want to.

11. I feel that I am ugly.

12. I feel that I am a boring person.

13. I feel very nervous when I am with strangers.

14. I feel in my ability to learn new things.

15. I feel good about myself.

16. I feel ashamed about myself.

17. I feel inferior to other people.

18. I feel that my fiends find me interesting.

19. I feel that I have a good sense of humor.

20. I get angry at my self over the way I am.

21. I feel relaxed meeting new people.

22. I feel that other people are smarter than myself.

23. I do not like myself.

24. I feel confident in my ability to cope with difficult situations.

25. I feel that I am not very likable.

26. My friends value me a lot.

27. I am afraid I will appear stupid to others.

28. I I feel that I am an okay person.

29. I feel that I can count on myself to manage things well.

30. I wish I could just disappear when I am around other people.

31. I feel embarrassed to let others hear my ideas.

32. I feel that I am a nice person.

33. I feel that if I could be more like other people then I would feel better about myself.

34. I feel that I get pushed around more than others.

35. I feel that people like me.

36. I feel that people have a good time when they are with me.

37. I feel confident that I can do well in whatever I do.

38. I trust the competence of others more than I trust my own abilities.

39. I feel that I mess things up.

40. I wish that I were someone else.

Scoring:

The following items must be reversed (1=7, 2=6, 3=5, 4=4, 5=3, 6=2, and 7=1): 1, 2, 5, 11, 13, 16, 17, 20, 22, 23, 25, 27, 30, 31, 33, 34, 38, 39, and 40. After reversing these items, add your responses together to obtain your final score.

Norms:

Score Percentile

260 85

244 70

227 50

210 30

194 15

If you scored below the 30th percentile, you undoubtedly deserve to feel better about yourself.

For example, accept that you do not have to be perfect in order to feel good about yourself ;)

Thick-skin...

Hmm... I wonder how some people could have this trait... It might be positive, but i take it as negative...

There is a story behind everything... so let me tell you my story about a thick-skinned person, then you'll understand...

Well, my sister has a boyfriend who is younger, not doing very well in his job, plus he is studying on scholarship, not because he is really all that smart, but because he was able to pull some strings here and there... he is also a trouble-maker or maybe someone who has no social skills... this point might be the opposite of his ability to pull some string right? Well, let's just say that he knows whose show to polish and whose shoe he can throw into the dumpster (ie what bridges he can burn!)

Being used to his usual ways of showing off by saying what he has done, which is nothing much coz this is just his second job, or maybe first coz his first job was just being an intern, then he was not re-hired after the intern... you might know why ;)

He loves starting his sentence with "Do you know..." and then he will tell you something, which you have watched on the Discovery channel :) Yes... that's him... or he will correct you about something very subjective, meaning there is no right or wrong answer to it. For example, the topic on whether chicken or egg came first... no matter what, just let him win... if not, you won't get to stop his high-pitched voice from bursting your eardrums!

Well, going back to the thick-skin story, he passes a lot of sarcastic remarks... I just ignore him most of the time... but recently, after I have presented my research paper with my partner, he told me "I think you guys are bullshitting" I kept quiet for a while... trying to absorb what he has just said in front of me and my sister ie her girlfriend... my sister acted as if nothing happened... he was acting as if he is right, and I feel annoyed, which is what I told him, I said "This is not very nice and now I am annoyed" He acted as if he is still right... and then went on being his fake nice self in front of my parents... I let it go... I already gave up on him and my sister... so I dun quite care much as long as they leave me alone and don't step on me anymore... BUT, being the successful him and smart him, he does not own a car or a place to stay... he stays with my sister in her new apartment and drives her car... so on days she can't pick or send him or lazy to do so, she will ask him to ask me to give him a lift or something... I don't mind doing this to anyone... but don't make it a habit... and the fact that he can be rude to me and in return ask me for favors... its weird to me...

He just send me a text today asking me to drop him home after our night class... what can I say? No? Of course not... so I said yes... but deep down inside, I feel... I dunno... I can't find a word to fit his behavior.... I just am not satisfied having to be treated rudely by him, and then having to be nice to him... worse of all, my sister thinks that he is an angel (I think I juz puked in my mouth)... yeah, she does think so... (roll eyes)

Anyway... what should I do? or what can I do?

Not everybody can understand

There is always two sides of a story... you can choose to tell or not... no matter how or what, someone out of the picture will not understand it truly... so no matter how much you explain or try to clear up the misunderstanding... people will not see it the way you do... you can't make them nor force them... it all has to come from that individual.

Is it a tough thing to do? It could be... but the most important thing is, as long as you know you are on the right track and this is what you want to do, there is no point making others see it the way you do or even make them agree with what you have in mind... you have to feel good yourself... then things will fall into place.

There have been many books, and articles and talks about building your self esteem, which in turn would make you a more confident person... I do agree with that, but the most important thing is you believe in yourself and you are not having doubts of yourself... because if you do not care, trust, and believe in yourself, who will do a better job than you? When you do so, the rest will follow.

Fear is always the distracter or prohibition of you being the person whom you think you would or could never be... Have faith in yourself. You can do more than you can you know ;)

Have a great weekend everyone!

Ms Thridwheel, the gf slayer...

Hahaha... yeap, she found another victim now... well... not really another victim, but the focus this time, is not on my friend... but best friend number 2's gf...

Well, it's best friend number 2's birthday this weekend... so the gf, although knows Ms Thirdwheel does not like her, included Ms Thirdwheel in the surprise birthday party she had planned for her boyfriend... However, Ms Thirdwheel turned the whole thing around, called best friend number 2 and told him she had planned something for him and that she has invited the gf, best friend number 1 and gf...

So now... best friend number 2, thought that Ms Thirdwheel who was the one who is planning a party for him... when in actual fact, the gf of his is throwing him a surprise birthday party... now Ms Thirwheel got the Ms Congeniality prize while gf got zero... ;)

Well... although we always say, life does not always go as planned... but this is a plan stolen... just like your brillinat idea stolen by your colleague and sold it to your boss and he or she got the promotion... that kinda situation...

Messy... annoying... nothing to say... so now gf wants to do something about it... BUT... I doubt anything can be done.... I wish her all the best though.

Updates of Ms Thirdwheel

Spoke to my friend over the weekend... apparently, Ms Thirdwheel is still holding tight onto both his male best friends... Wonder what is she still trying to do... Guess she has another plan in her mind.

Well, I told my friend not to worry because someday everyone will know the true her... although it has been ages she is like this... but just gotta have some patience for the truth to come out. My friend does not want to put her down or socially destroy her... but just want her to back off a little and give them some space and zero issues...

But, it also depends on her boyfriend... Ms Thirdwheel could call and text all she wants... but if the boyfriend attends to it, she can't totally blame Ms Thirdwheel... so I suggest that my friend should have a talk with her boyfriend. Just say "I truly understand that you both are best friends, and it is fine for you both to meet up, but let me know... don't hide it from me..." I guess this is what I would say if I were her...

We can't stop people from doing the things they do, but we can change the way we handle them... they will never change their ways, and neither should you... but to win your battle, you might have to bend a little ;)

Saturday lazeeee

I manage to get some lazy time this Saturday ;) Kinda forgot how good it feels... Hmmm...

Well, since i have so much time in hand... I was thinking, what are the different things one can do during their lazing time ;)

1. Sleep

2. Eat

3. Gardening

4. Cleaning or tidying

5. Watch tv

6. Read a book

7. Write or start a blog ;)

8. Cook or bake

9. Try out fun make-up

10. Redecorate a part at home

11. Try our outfits with shoes just for fun

12. Paint your nails

13. Do your own facial

14. Soak in bubble bath

15. Plan for something... party, gathering and so on and so forth

16. Call your parents, if you don't live with them ;)

17. Catch up friends over the internet or phone

18. Exercise

19. Take pictures of your shoes and tag them on the box

20. Color coordinate your closet ;p

Gossip Girl

I used to not understand what's the craze all about when it comes to the series GG... so I borrowed it from a friend and started watching it... I got suck into it! :p

Gossip Girl is an American teen drama television series based on the book series of the same name written by Cecily von Ziegesar. Narrated by the omniscient yet unseen blogger "Gossip Girl", voiced by Kristin Bell, the series revolves around the lives of privileged teenagers attending an elite private school in New York City's Upper East Side. The series began with the mysterious arrival of bad girl turned good Serena van der Woodsen (Blake Lively), who attempts to start a new page in her life with her friends and family, starting a relationship with Dan Humphrey (Penn Badgley), an outsider who becomes a part of the turbulent Manhattan scene. Gossip Girl also features Serena's best friend and ally Blair Waldorf (Leighton Meester), a beautiful Queen Bee of Manhattan's social scene. As of the third season, students who graduated from high school navigate their way through the real world or university. [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gossip_Girl_(TV_series)]

Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?

Am reading this book and I have to say, it's positively different and it's... you gotta read it for yourself. It has many short stories, which gives us a deeper understanding of wisdom, compassion, and mindfulness with a pinch of humor :) As I am reading it... it seems like I have open up myself to more happiness, goodness, and kindness...

I just love it... very different from my usual chic lits :)

The feeling of writing...

I wonder why sometimes i don't write at all... but when I do... I just go on and on...

I guess when I write something, its something I really really wanna share... knowing myself... if I make myself write everyday, I might write a lot of unimportant stuff that are good to know and not need to know ;)

But I applaud bloggers who could write beautiful and insightful things... I try... but... nah... I am more the last minute, all of a sudden, play by ear kinda blogger... I don't consider myself a blogger... my blogs are more of a way of me telling my stories, sharing what I know, sharing how I feel or wanna do in that period of time... or just blah stuff...

Oh, by the way, a best friend of mine is getting married soon! Am so excited for her :) Yay! - You see there, I just did one out of the blue thingy :)

Anyway, everyone, have fun, take care, be good and stay out of trouble! ;)

Q's of Ms Thirdwheel...

I really can't understand why Ms Thirdwheel would still cause problems?

What is she thinking?

What was the boyfriend thinking?

How mean can someone be?

What does Ms Thirdwheel expect out if this?

How can my friend hold on?

Does Ms Thirdwheel not have any pride?

Why did she get personal when it started as a birthday invitation?

I bet she will find something extra to complaint, if she reads this blog or finds out about this blog :p

All the women who has this sort of third wheels in their life, need not to worry... what goes around, comes around :)

Third wheel strikes again

Just heard from my friend... I can't believe her boyfriend's female best friend, Ms Thirdwheel, strike again... this time, she sounded like a cuckoo person...

1st - she complained about my friend putting her on limited profile on FB... I think that everyone has the right to do whatever they want with their profile. So why did the third wheel complained?

2nd - she complained that my friend did not wish her happy birthday this year, so she is not gonna do so nor is she gonna even attend her birthday dinner... my friend said Ms Thirdwheel was away during her birthday, she could have messaged her, but she did not because the third wheel ignored my friend whenever she sees my friend online... so, if I were my friend, I would also keep quiet and not say anything because when people are ignoring you, you will not go approach that person, cause you have your pride as well... isn't it?

3rd - she complained that she bought my friend flowers last year for her birthday, why my friend did not wish her... I seriously find this insane... if a bouquet of flowers meant so much to you, I would on behalf of my friend, buy 10 bouquets so that you can shut it. Don't you think this is petty?

4th - she complained that my friend uses whatever she says to argue with her best friend who is also my friends boyfriend... why does she even care? Yes she used to but now no longer because they communicate with each other. What does it even have to do with her?

5th - she asked the best friend why he only has his girlfriends best interest but not hers... Hello!!! She is the girlfriend and you are just the best friend... You need someone to point that out to you, Ms Thirdwheel?

6th - she asked the best friend why is he forcing her to go for the girlfriends birthday while he did not force the girlfriend to go for her birthday dinner... for her information, they met up without telling the girlfriend, YES!, they met up without my friends knowledge. So who should be angry now?

7th - she said she does not want to attend the girlfriends birthday dinner because he invited another best friend's girlfriend, whom she does not like as well... You see, they are three best friends - a female and 2 males... de female is Ms Thirdwheel, 2 males are my friends boyfriend (best friend no 1) and another guy (best friend no 2, who was invited together with his girlfriend for the dinner)... so back to the story, Ms Thirdwheel was mad that best friend no 1 invited best friend no 2's girlfriend, whom she does not like as well... BUT these two girlfriends, get along very well... So who is the one with the problem now?

My advice to Ms Thirdwheel would be, either you be happy for your friend or leave them alone. They are individuals, they cannot attend to your whims and fancies as you like... they have their own life, their own girlfriends, and their own families soon because both of your best buddies are marrying their girlfriends. One is this year and another one soon. So to prevent your best friends from someday ignoring you due to your crazy attitude, learn to get along or stay alone.

Engagement

So much to do with so little time!

I just received the timetable for my September semester, which is starting next week... gosh! So fast 3 weeks have passed but I seem to not have done much! I guess I was busy with helping sis move and meeting up with friends and most importantly.... my lazin moments! ;)



Well... classes are starting soon... I am gonna be back in those tight schedules... and I still have a bunch of friends to meet and oh oh... my engagement is next week too! Uh oh... should i skip this semester, take one paper or take two papers? Hmmm...

Birthday... :) sweet 28!

Celebrated my birthday over the weekend... was a very different n simple one, which I told my fiance I wanted :)

Was dinner and drinks at an Italian restaurant just opposite my house :) we can even walk there!

Simple celebration with my family, my fiance and two close friends... dinner was great and drinks were more than enough... though I had wine, a flaming and a tequila shot... I was fine, luckily, and we still get to chat and laugh the whole night :)

It was a good one!

Things I wanna do during the break...

I know I should get back to work... But I feel like making a list of things I wanna do... and maybe I could work on it! :)

1. Taking ballroom dancing classes for the 3rd time (I know... but i really like it)
2. Taking violin classes
3. Go for a holiday - Perhentian (coz my sis juz went, and she sd its awesome!), Kuwait (but not now, later as my another sis is moving there, plus I have never been there), Oh... I could have a list of places I have never been to ;)

Places I have never been to:
1. Argentina
2. Austria
3. Bahamas
4. Barbados
5. Belize
6. Brazil
7. Burma
8. Cambodia
9. Canada
10. Chile
11. Comoros
12. Costa Rica
13. Cote d'Ivoire
14. Cuba
15. Cyprus
16. Dominican Republic
17. Ecuador
18. El Savador
19. Equatorial Guinea
20. Estonia
21. Fiji
22. greece
23. Guatemala
24. Haiti
25. Honduras
26. Hungary
27. Iceland
28. Italy
29. Jamaica
30. Jordan
31. Kuwait
32. Laos
33. Liechtenstein
34. Luxembourg
35. Maldives
36. Marshall Islands
37. Mauritania
38. Mexico
39. Moldova
40. Monaco
41. Mongolia
42. Montenegro
43. Morocco
44. Nepal
45. Nicaragua
46. Norway
47. Oman
48. Panama
49. Papua New Guinea
50. Peru
51. Portugal
52. Qatar
53. Russia
54. St. Lucia
55. San Marino
56. Seychelles
57. Solomon Islands
58. Trinidad & Tobago
59. Vatican City
60. Venezuela
61. Wales

Hmm... that's aaaaaaaaaaaaalot.... good to know there are still so many places I have not been to or I might wanna go again ;)

Semester break...

This is the first week of my semester break... have not done anything interesting except lazing, which I don't normally do since I have not the time... but its been kinda nice... Been thinking of what i can do during this break. But there's only two weeks left till school starts again...

Talking about school, am thinking whether I should take this semester or skip it. The wedding is coming and I need to look good and not tired as I always do, or sick or busy and so on... If i skip this semester, I will have to take 3 papers again for 2 semesters... but if i do take this semester, I might not get to rest enough for the big day and my wedding is in the middle of classes and then finals after 2 weeks of my wedding... so am still thinking about it...

Neway, back to semester break, am thinking of meeting up some friends... but those I wanna meet are not in Malaysia... well except one... I shall call her... but the rest are in Singapore and US... I can't even have one hen's night in one country... my friends all over have invited me - US, Singapore, Bangkok, Jakarta, and Australia... but I just want one in KL if need to... nothing huge, no silly stuff, just girls having a drink (no getting drunk, do not like that) and have clean fun ;)... simple and nice is my idea of a good hen's night (for me at least) But not everyone is able to be here... I shall pass...

Next week is my birthday... just wanna have a simple dinner with family... simple again... I guess it's age or its just me having enough of parties and all... :) Anyway, shall tell my fiance about it before he plans something with friends and all... Ish! Back to work now...

Lovely sisters...

I have two lovely sisters... both of them are older than me... No. 1 is the caring mother, while No. 3 is the cool and fine with anything sis.

Having No. 3 back for holidays, have made my work and school and assignments and exam-days easier... we spend as much time together, we just love each others company. We could continue talking and talking and we still have a lot to share and talk about.

Three of us would just be happy even having simple dinners at home. We don't need the tv, we just need each others company and stories to share :)

I wish the best for both of my sisters and I love them aaaaaaaaaalot... I do not tell them, but i guess my daily actions kinda show ;)

I have to say I'm blessed with caring parents, lovely sisters, wonderful fiance, and cool friends!

Competitiveness....

I find that it is healthy to be competitive in order to make us wanna move forward and do better... i.e. in moderation, everything is good.

What if it has become over-bearing and its annoying people? I think people has to be more alert on that... being too competitive comes across as insincere, pessimistic, like a bug - annoying!

I have been an adult student since I quit the airlines. During my degree, students I'm in the same class with are younger than me by a couple of years... some of them do not care less how well others do, but some are extremely competitive. I would let it go because they are younger and they would learn to tone it down a little when they are in the working world...

But now that I am in my Masters program... this is still prevalent. I am the middle-aged one in class... the younger ones, still do not care less... but to my surprise, the older ones are extremely competitive. Almost every semester for every subject, people would come up and ask, "How much did you get?" "God, I did worse than you" "Can I see your assignment" "What did you write for this and that?"

Beginning I would find it tolerable... but after a year of 3 semesters of 7 papers.... I have finally lost my patience yesterday. We are in an academic setting and day one we were told to cite every single point which we took from somewhere. But most of the class members did not. Except for two of us. Then the drama starts.... one after another comes and ask the same question... The last person got it, I'm sorry... but you were unlucky... "I just said, I dunno, I'm not the lecturer, don't ask me anymore, you guys are bugging me, seriously, let it go already"

To my surprise, the reply was "I like your answer" - in a sarcastic way... people do not learn... they will continue hitting their head on the same wall until they learn their lesson i.e. the wall is there and thus you need to use another route to prevent yourself from knocking your head again...

Are there any gender differences in competitiveness? Culture differences? Anything???

Babies.... :)

My sister just came back and told us a good news... I'm gonna be an aunt! But she might not be able to make it for my wedding since she'll be big by then and it's not safe for her to fly then... Anyway, I'm gonna be an aunt, that's good for me! :)

Now I wanna have... ;p

Kelly Clarkson - Already Gone

Kelly Clarkson's rumoured third single from her fourth studio album, All I Ever Wanted. Available in stores and on itunes now. *NO COPYRIGHT INFRINGEMENT INTENDED*

Already Gone Lyrics -
Remember all the things we wanted
Now all our memories, they're haunted
We were always meant to say goodbye
Even with our fists held high
It never would have worked out right, yeah
We were never meant for do or die...

I didn't want us to burn out
I didn't come here to hurt you now I can't stop...

I want you to know
It doesn't matter where we take this road
Someone's gotta go
And I want you to know
You couldn't have loved me better
But I want you to move on
So I'm already gone

Looking at you makes it harder
But I know that you'll find another
That doesn't always make you wanna cry
It started with the perfect kiss then
We could feel the poison set in
"Perfect" couldn't keep this love alive
You know that I love you so
I love you enough to let you go

I want you to know
It doesn't matter where we take this road
Someone's gotta go
And I want you to know
You couldn't have loved me better
But I want you to move on
So I'm already gone

I'm already gone, already gone
You can't make it feel right
When you know that it's wrong
I'm already gone, already gone
There's no moving on
So I'm already gone

Ahhhh already gone, already gone, already gone
Ahhhh already gone, already gone, already gone

Remember all the things we wanted
Now all our memories, they're haunted
We were always meant to say goodbye...

I want you to know
It doesn't matter where we take this road
Someone's gotta go
And I want you to know
You couldn't have loved me better
But I want you to move on
So I'm already gone

I'm already gone, already gone
You can't make it feel right
When you know that it's wrong
I'm already gone, already gone
There's no moving on,
So I'm already gone

MJ - The way you make me feel

Written and Composed by Michael Jackson.



Hee-Hee!
Ooo!
Go On Girl!
Aaow!
Hee!

Hey Pretty Baby With The High Heels On
You Give Me Fever Like I've Never, Ever Known
You're Just A Product Of Loveliness
I Like The Groove Of Your Walk,Your Talk, Your Dress
I Feel Your Fever From Miles Around
I'll Pick You Up In My Car And We'll Paint The Town
Just Kiss Me Baby And Tell Me Twice
That You're The One For Me

-Chorus-
The Way You Make Me Feel
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
You Really Turn Me On
(You Really Turn Me On)
You Knock Me Off Of My Feet
(You Knock Me Off Of My Feet)
My Lonely Days Are Gone
(My Lonely Days Are Gone)

I Like This Feelin' You're Givin' Me
Just Hold Me Baby And I'm In Ecstasy
Oh I'll Be Workin' From Nine To Five
To Buy You Things To Keep You By My Side
I Never Felt So In Love Before
Just Promise Baby, You'll Love Me Forevermore
I Swear I'm Keepin' You Satisfied
'Cause You're The One For Me

-Chorus-
The Way You Make Me Feel
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
You Really Turn Me On
(You Really Turn Me On)
You Knock Me Off Of My Feet Now Baby-Hee!
(You Knock Me Off Of My Feet)
My Lonely Days Are Gone-
A-Acha-Acha (My Lonely Days Are Gone)
Acha-Ooh!

Go On Girl!
Go On! Hee! Hee! Aaow!
Go On Girl!

I Never Felt So In Love Before
Promise Baby, You'll Love Me Forevermore
I Swear I'm Keepin' You Satisfied
'Cause You're The One For Me . . .

-Chorus-
The Way You Make Me Feel
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
You Really Turn Me On
(You Really Turn Me On)
You Knock Me Off Of My Feet
Now Baby-Hee!
(You Knock Me Off Of
My Feet)
My Lonely Days Are Gone
(My Lonely Days Are Gone)

The Way You Make Me Feel
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
You Really Turn Me On
(You Really Turn Me On)
You Knock Me Off Of My Feet
Now Baby-Hee!
(You Knock Me Off Of My Feet)
My Lonely Days Are Gone
(My Lonely Days Are Gone)

Ain't Nobody's Business,
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
Ain't Nobody's Business
Ain't Nobody's Business,
(You Really Turn Me On)
Ain't Nobody's Business But
Mine And My Baby
(You Knock Me Off Of
My Feet)
Hee Hee!
Hee Hee! Oooh!
(My Lonely Days Are Gone)

Give It To Me
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
Give Me Some Time
Come On Be My Girl
(You Really Turn Me On)
I wanna blow your mind
Ain't Nobody's Business-
(You Knock Me Off Of My Feet)
Ain't Nobody's Business But
Mine And My Baby's
(My Lonely Days Are Gone)
Go On Girl! Aaow!


Hee Hee! Oooo!
Chika-Chika
Chika-Chika-Chika
Go On Girl!
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
Hee Hee
Hee Hee He
(You Really Turn Me On)
(You Knock Me Off My Feet)
(My Lonely Days Are Gone)


(Begins To fade...)
Give It To Me
(The Way You Make Me Feel)
Give Me Some Time
Come On Be My Girl
(You Really Turn Me On)
I wanna blow your mind
Ain't Nobody's Business-
(You Knock Me Off Of My Feet)
Ain't Nobody's Business But
Mine And My Baby's
(My Lonely Days Are Gone)
Go On Girl! Aaow!

MJ - Remember the time

Do you remember
When we fell in love
We were young
And innocent then
Do you remember
How it all began
It just seemed like heaven
So why did it end?

Do you remember
Back in the fall
Wed be together
All day long
Do you remember
Us holding hands
In each others eyes
Wed stare
(tell me)

Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time
When we first met
Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time

Do you remember
How we used to talk
(ya know)
Wed stay on the phone
At night till dawn
Do you remember
All the things we said like
I love you so
Ill never let you go

Do you remember
Back in the spring
Every morning birds would sing
Do you remember
Those special times
Theyll just go on and on
In the back of my mind

Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time
When we first met girl
Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time

Those sweet memories
Will always be dear to me
And girl no matter what was said
I will never forget what we had
Now baby

Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time
When we first met
Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time

Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time
When we first met
Do you remember the time
When we fell in love
Do you remember the time

Remember the times
Ooh
Remember the times
Do you remember girl
Remember the times
On the phone you and me
Remember the times
Till dawn, two or three
What about us girl

Remember the times
Do you. do you, do you,
Do you, do you
Remember the times
In the park, on the beach
Remember the times
You and me in spain
Remember the times
What about, what about...

Remember the times
Ooh... in the park
Remember the times
After dark..., do you, do you, do you
Remember the times
Do you, do you, do you, do you
Remember the times
Yeah yeah
Remember the times

MJ - Man in the mirror

I'm Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It's Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .

As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favourite Winter Coat
This Wind Is Blowin' My Mind
I See The Kids In The Street,
With Not Enough To Eat
Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See
Their Needs
A Summer's Disregard,
A Broken Bottle Top
And A One Man's Soul
They Follow Each Other On
The Wind Ya' Know
'Cause They Got Nowhere
To Go
That's Why I Want You To
Know

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)

I've Been A Victim Of A Selfish
Kind Of Love
It's Time That I Realize
That There Are Some With No
Home, Not A Nickel To Loan
Could It Be Really Me,
Pretending That They're Not
Alone?

A Willow Deeply Scarred,
Somebody's Broken Heart
And A Washed-Out Dream
(Washed-Out Dream)
They Follow The Pattern Of
The Wind, Ya' See
Cause They Got No Place
To Be
That's Why I'm Starting With
Me
(Starting With Me!)

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Ooh!)
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I'm Asking Him To Change His
Ways
(Change His Ways-Ooh!)
And No Message Could've
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .)
Change!

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror,
(Man In The Mirror-Oh
Yeah!)
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make The Change)
(You Gotta Get It Right, While
You Got The Time)
('Cause When You Close Your
Heart)
You Can't Close Your . . .Your
Mind!
(Then You Close Your . . .
Mind!)
That Man, That Man, That
Man, That Man
With That Man In The Mirror
(Man In The Mirror, Oh Yeah!)
That Man, That Man, That Man
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
You Know . . .That Man
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Oh Yeah!)
Gonna Feel Real Good Now!
Yeah Yeah! Yeah Yeah!
Yeah Yeah!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Ooooh . . .)
Oh No, No No . . .
I'm Gonna Make A Change
It's Gonna Feel Real Good!
Come On!
(Change . . .)
Just Lift Yourself
You Know
You've Got To Stop It.
Yourself!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
I've Got To Make That Change,
Today!
Hoo!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Got To
You Got To Not Let Yourself . . .
Brother . . .
Hoo!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
You Know-I've Got To Get
That Man, That Man . . .
(Man In The Mirror)
You've Got To
You've Got To Move! Come
On! Come On!
You Got To . . .
Stand Up! Stand Up!
Stand Up!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Stand Up And Lift
Yourself, Now!
(Man In The Mirror)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Aaow!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Gonna Make That Change . . .
Come On!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know . . .
(Change . . .)
Make That Change.

MJ - They don't care about us

Written and composed by michael jackson


Skin head, dead head
Everybody gone bad
Situation, aggravation
Everybody allegation
In the suite, on the news
Everybody dog food
Bang bang, shock dead
Everybodys gone mad

All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us
All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us

Beat me, hate me
You can never break me
Will me, thrill me
You can never kill me
Do me, sue me
Everybody do me
Kick me, strike me
Dont you black or white me

All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us
All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us

Tell me what has become of my life
I have a wife and two children who love me
I am the victim of police brutality, now
Im tired of bein the victim of hate
Youre rapin me of my pride
Oh, for gods sake
I look to heaven to fulfill its prophecy...
Set me free

Skin head, dead head
Everybody gone bad
Trepidation, speculation
Everybody allegation
In the suite, on the news
Everybody dog food
Black man, black mail
Throw your brother in jail

All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us
All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us

Tell me what has become of my rights
Am I invisible because you ignore me?
Your proclamation promised me free liberty, now
Im tired of bein the victim of shame
Theyre throwing me in a class with a bad name
I cant believe this is the land from which I came
You know I do really hate to say it
The government dont wanna see
But if roosevelt was livin
He wouldnt let this be, no, no

Skin head, dead head
Everybody gone bad
Situation, speculation
Everybody litigation
Beat me, bash me
You can never trash me
Hit me, kick me
You can never get me

All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us
All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us

Some things in life they just dont wanna see
But if martin luther was livin
He wouldnt let this be

Skin head, dead head
Everybody gone bad
Situation, segregation
Everybody allegation
In the suite, on the news
Everybody dog food
Kick me, strike me
Dont you wrong or right me

All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us
All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us

All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us
All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us

All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us
All I wanna say is that
They dont really care about us

MJ & 3T - Why

Why does Monday, come before Tuesday
Why do summers start in June
Why do winters come too soon
Why do people fall in love
When they're always breaking up, oh why
Why do we love if love will die

Why does Wednesday come after Tuesday
Why do flowers come in May
Why springtime go away
Why do people fall in love
When they're always breaking up, oh why
Why do I love you tell me why

(TJ)
It's not like I can explain what's in my heart
It's just I feel a crazy pain when we're apart
I don't wanna breathe, I don't wannna think
I don't wanna learn
I don't wanna do anything

(Taryll)
It's not like I can describe what's going on
It's just I feel I'm not alive
When you're not home
I don't wanna sleep, I don't wanna be
(TAJ)
I just want you here beside me
Without you there's no me

(Michael)
Why does Monday come before Tuesday
Why do summers start in June
Why do winters come too soon
Why do people fall in love
When they're always breaking up, oh why
Why do we love if love will die

(Michael & Taryll)
Why does Wednesday come after Tuesday
Why do flowers come in May
Why does springtime go away
Why do people fall in love
When they're always breaking up, oh why
Why do I love you tell me why

(TJ)
It's not like I can escape, what's in my soul
Cause without you inside my heart
Where can I go
(Taryll)
I don't wanna see, girl you without me
I can't go through life without you
(TAJ)
Without you there's no me

(All)
Why does Monday come before Tuesday
Why do summers start in June
Why do winters come too soon
Why do people fall in love
When they're always breaking up, oh why
Why do we love if love will die

(Taryll)
Why do the rivers flow to the sea
In every flow I get your love over me, babe
Why does my heart miss your kiss
To be in love, to fall in love
Why don't I feel complete

(All)
Why does Monday come before Tuesday
Why do summers start in June
Why do winters come too soon
Why do people fall in love
When they're always breaking up, oh why
Why do I love tell me why

(TJ)
Tell me why
(TAJ)
Tell me why
(Taryll)
Tell me why
(Michael)
Tell me why

MJ FOREVER...

I grew up with his songs...

He is greatly missed...

May he rest in peace...

Help ourselves b4 we help others...

This is true for us who would want to practice someday. So I did go for a couple of sessions... I was fine and all. But, one session where I was required to first draw mountains, then river, tree, dog, sun, house, gate, road, snake, and birds... from the drawing, the counselor would interpret the drawing...

She first noticed that I am very hard on myself... I definitely have goals, but if I do not achieve them, it kills me... I need to learn to relax. I have resources to do so, I have them near me... but still I control myself too much...

Then the next question of "Are you happy?" really broke the water balloon... I started to tear... I hate to cry, even more in front of someone else. So, i swallowed it and kept quiet. I told myself, I am ok, all I need to do is do the usual talking-about-it, then I'll be fine... I did spoke to my sister... it felt a bit better, but this really made me realize that when one hits the bulls eye question... that's when the counseling begins... because the upfront issue might not be the real issue...

Research paper...

Looking at today's children... they are really very different from those grew up like 10-20 years ago... does it have anything to do with parenting style used... besides pointing fingers at the media and other factors...

BUT, instead of looking at their personalities or behavior... I am interested in looking at self esteem... this I think, is the oldest issue, since the times of our parents growing up until now... a lot of research has been done in the West and some in the far East... but what about Malaysia?

Today's Highlights in History

1533	Anne Boleyn, the second wife of King Henry VIII, was crowned Queen Consort of England.
1792	Kentucky became the 15th state of the union.
1796	Tennessee became the 16th state.
1801	Mormon leader Brigham Young was born in Whitingham, Vt.
1813	The Navy gained its motto as the mortally wounded commander of the frigate Chesapeake, Capt. James Lawrence, said "Don't give up the ship" during a losing battle with a British frigate.
1868	James Buchanan, the 15th president of the United States, died near Lancaster, Pa., at age 77.
1925	Baseball Hall of Famer Lou Gehrig's streak of playing in 2,130 consecutive games began when he entered a game as a pinch hitter for the New York Yankees.
1926	Actress Marilyn Monroe was born Norma Jeane Mortensen in Los Angeles.
1944	The BBC broadcast a coded message to inform the French resistance that the D-Day invasion was imminent.
1958	Charles de Gaulle became premier of France.
1967	The album "Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band" by the Beatles was released.
1977	The Soviet Union charged Jewish human rights activist Anatoly Shcharansky with treason.
1980	CNN made its debut.
2001	A suicide bomber attacked a Tel Aviv nightclub, killing 21 Israelis.
2005	Dutch voters rejected the European Union constitution.
2007	Assisted suicide advocate Jack Kevorkian was released from a Michigan prison after serving eight years for ending the life of a man suffering from Lou Gehrig's disease.
2008	Fashion designer Yves Saint Laurent died at age 71.

Jennifer Hudson : If This Isn't Love

[Verse 1:]
I’m calling this fone up just keep tellin how much
I really love him cause he’s everything I want
He listens to me, cares for me
So why’d you leaving me?

God sent me an angel up from above
To love me for life
Things would be perfect
Only because it’s the only way
I can describe and say

[Chorus:]
If this isn’t love
See what it is, is like I’d be dreaming and just playin crazy

If this isn’t love
See what it is, cause I never felt like this baby

If this isn’t love

L-o-v-e what is (in) me?
L-o-v-e Oh…
If this isn’t love [x2]

[Verse 2:]
I’m selfish cause I don’t wanna share
When nobody not even knows
People that came before me
But see I ever believe.

God sent me an angel up from above
To love me for life
Things would be perfect
Only because it’s the only way
I can describe and say

[Chorus:]
If this isn’t love
See what it is, it’s like I’d be dreaming and just playin crazy, (oh)

If this isn’t love (No)
See what it is, cause I never felt like this baby
If this isn’t love

L-o-v-e what is (in) me?
L-o-v-e Oh…
If this isn’t love [x2]

So if you got real love
Let me see you put your hands up
See you put your hands up
The kind of love that beats
Wild like a club
Let me see you put your hands up
See you put your hands up, if this isn’t love
Cause I know I ain’t crazy
I know I ain’t trippin
I know I ain’t sleepin
I know that it’s love
See me with my hands up
If you think I’m dreamin
I know I ain’t dreamin
Cause this reason maybe
And I know what is love
If this isn’t love…

[Chorus: till end]

June... & Cupcakes! :)

6th month of the year... almost half year has passed... time past by really fast.

I might used to ask myself, have I been productive and used my time to the max... Now I can proudly say yes with a full-time job, 3 classes a week after work and also managing household stuff and wedding preparation ;) Proud proud proud... BUT not forgetting times when I fell sick! Well... at least I pull through ;) that's good for me!

Am looking around for cakes or cupcakes for special occasions... my sister found this place in Gardens Mid Valley called Delectable... they have really cute nice stuff. I love the packaging and design of the cakes and cupcakes: http://www.delectable.com.my/cupcakes/gallery-cupcakes.html

And of course there are many more... but am still searching...

Anyway, I still have 5 months...

Shoesssssss

• Alexander McQueen
• Anyi Lu
• Azzedine Alaia
• Badgley Mischka
• Balenciaga
• BCBG
• BEBE
• Betsey Johnson
• Bottega Veneta
• Brian Atwood
• Bruno Magli
• Burberry
• Carlos Santana
• Chanel
• Chloe
• Christian Dior
• Christian Lacroix
• Christian Louboutin
• Coach
• Dolce & Gabbana
• Donald J Pliner
• Ed Hardy
• Ferragamo
• Giuseppe Zanotti
• Gucci
• Hermes
• Jack Rogers
• Jimmy Choo
• Juicy Couture
• L.A.M.B.
• Louis Vuitton
• Manolo Blahnik
• Michael Kors
• Miu Miu
• Prada
• Rene Caovilla
• Roberto Cavalli
• Roger Vivier
• Steve Madden
• Stuart Weitzman
• Taryn Rose
• Tod’s
• Tory Burch
• UGG
• Valentino Garavani

Untouched, The Veronicas

I go ooh ooh, you go ah ah
lalalalalalalala

I can't lie lie lie lie lie lie
I wanna wanna wanna get get get what I want
Don't stop
Give me give me give me what you got got
Cause I can't wait wait wait any more more more more
Don't even talk about the consequence
Cause right now you're the only thing that's making any sense to me
And I don't give a damn what they say, what they think think
Cause you're the only one who's on my mind
I'll never ever let you leave me
I'll try to stop time for ever, never wanna hear you say goodbye (bye bye bye)

I feel so untouched
And I want you so much
That I just can't resist you
It's not enough to say that I miss you
I feel so untouched right now
Need you so much somehow
I can't forget you
Been going crazy from the moment I met you

Untouched
And I need you so much

See you, breathe you, I want to be you
Alalalala alalalala
You can take take take take take time time
To live live the way you gotta gotta live your life
Give me give me give me all of you you
Don't be scared
I'll see you through the loneliness of one more more more
Don't even think about what's right or wrong, wrong or right
'Cause in the end it's only you and me and no one else is gonna be around
To answer all the questions left behind
And you and I are meant to be so even if the world falls down today
You've still got me to hold you up up
And I will never let you down (down)

I feel so untouched
And I want you so much
That I just can't resist you
It's not enough to say that I miss you
I feel so untouched right now
Need you so much somehow
I can't forget you
Been going crazy from the moment I met you

Untouched, untouched, untouched, untouched, untouched
Alalalala alalalala
Untouched
Alalalala alalalala

I feel so untouched
And I want you so much
That I just can't resist you
It's not enough to say that I miss you
I feel so untouched right now
Need you so much somehow
I can't forget you
Been going crazy from the moment I met you

I feel so untouched
And I want you so much
That I just can't resist you
It's not enough to say that I miss you
I feel so untouched right now
Need you so much somehow
I can't forget you
Been going crazy from the moment I met you

Untouched, untouched, untouched

A Taste, Sofia J

La la la la la
La la la la la
La la la la la
La la la la la

When you find someone you know their heart is true
When you find this one you'll know just what to do
Like a breeze, your love came easy
Suddenly you came around and caught my eye
Now I'm alive

Look deep in eyes now can you feel it
Make this moment last forever steal it
Pull me close
Wanna feel your breath upon my face
Put those lips right up to mine
Give me a taste

La la la la la
La la la la la
La la la la la
La la la la la

Everyday I wake up you are on my mind
I go about my day and I'm just wasting time
I go crazy for you baby
Waiting for my moment I can see you smile
Now I'm alive

Look deep in eyes now can you feel it
Make this moment last forever steal it
Pull me close
Wanna feel your breath upon my face
Put those lips right up to mine
Give me a taste

Look deep in eyes now can you feel it
Make this moment last forever steal it
Pull me close
Wanna feel your breath upon my face
Put those lips right up to mine
Give me a taste

Look deep in eyes now can you feel it
Make this moment last forever steal it
Pull me close
Wanna feel your breath upon my face
Put those lips right up to mine
Give me a taste

Nevermind by Sofia J

Nevermind the things that we don't do
Nevermind the words that we don't say
When we touch the world just fades away
I don't care your clothes are on the floor
You don't mind I'll never know the score
Just a look a smile from you my world is right

Tell me what I wanna hear baby
Come on over next to me honey

We can scream and we can fight but
We'll make up before the nights up and it's okay
Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

And I can cry and say I hate you and
You can slam the door like were through but I don't care
Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

Yesterday we started out just fine
You were late and I was right on time
And the arguing got started and never stopped
I didn't really mean those thing I said
I should have kept those thoughts inside my head
Then you called and said your sorry too

Now we gotta make it up lover
We could never be without each other

We can scream and we can fight but
We'll make up before the nights up and it's okay
Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

And I can cry and say I hate you and
You can slam the door I went through and I don't care
Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

We can scream and we can fight but
We'll make up before the nights up and it's okay
Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

And I can cry and say I hate you and
You can slam the door like were through but I don't care
Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

Oh whoa nevermind cause we are in love

Problems... Patience... Resolution

I have come across many friends who are either in control and set in their lives or some who constantly complaints and have issues. I bet we all have friends who loves to complaint and nothing seems to work for them.

Does it annoy you? Is it tiring having to repeat yourself in how to deal with some issues? Does it strain your friendship? To some extend... yes. We are being a true friend, trying to help them in going through difficult times. But when what you have said fell on deaf ears or your friend is in denial about a lot of things or defensive or just want someone to hear them complaint or worse of all is affecting you... then you will start to back off a little.

Friends like this... common questions we have are... why are they like this? how come they don't see it? how do I tell him or her anymore? what else can I do or say? when is this gonna end? can I take this any longer with him or her?

When this is happening, I think that we as friends who wants to keep this friendship, should be upfront and be able to talk about things. Tell your friend that this is how you feel. Not that you don't care but you seemed like you are of no help or whatever reason that you are experiencing. Talking about it is better than slowly backing off and then loosing the friendship.

People who are having problems... if it is too overwhelming in their opinion, they tend to move to a defense mechanism, which is in denial... that answers why they tend to deny a lot of things or do not see it your way... remember, people outside the picture see things clearer. Besides, people having problems always wanna know why and how... when they get an answer WHICH is something they wanna hear, then they will drop it. If they do not hear what they want, they will continue on. This is because they in actual fact do know what to do, they are the experts in their life, but they have no confidence, am not sure, or just want someone to back them up. Therefore, they will continue on this process of searching from someone else instead of within themselves.

I do have friends like this... I do feel irritated... it is difficult to tell them as a friend about what to do and what I think after being in this field because being a counselor or psychologist, we should not advice but help clients untangle their issues so that they can see it clearer and come to a solution. But some friends expect me to help them in as a psychologist and a friend. This can't happen concurrently but somehow they will not understand and still insist.

So, in conclusion, psychologist and counselors are not problem-free people... we have our ups and downs, issues like anyone else because we are all humans after all... But, patience is the way to go... having friends who do not understand, constantly tell them. After a while they will get it because if something is not true, but is drilled into you frequently, you tend to believe is at the end of the day :) Thus, conflict is resolved... Of course it is easy to say than done... but here comes patience again... never tried never know!