Female said boyfriend used to get into trouble by getting drunk when he was out drinking with the guys... Troubles like fights, accidents, losing things, slept off in car, too drunk to remember what happened and so on.
She has spoken to him nicely, argued with him, leave him, explain to him... but he always comes back with the same dialogue, "I am sorry, I will never do it again, I promise." But he is still doing it, though not as bad like how it used to. However, he has started lying, not telling his whereabouts and not even answering phone calls.
After so many times, female confronted boyfriend, but he did not want to talk about it. Instead, like how he always tries to avoid the topic, gets angry and tells her "You go la," "Do whatever you want," "Go away," and the list just goes on... feeling hurt and angry, female smack his hand, which he was sleeping on. He got up and started shouting at female saying how dare she slap him. But she said she only smack his hand and not slap him.
He got so furious that he took a full opened can of soft drink and threw it at her... continue shouting, he then took the pack of rice she bought for him and threw it at her and kick it all over the place till the rice is almost everywhere in the house... He then said to her, "You slap me in my own house! From today onwards I will be a bastard!" Female kept explaining that she did not slap him but only smack his hand... I guess he was filled with rage because female said he did not seem to hear anything she was saying but continued shouting and then bang the front door on the wall when he opened it and then walked back to her and hit hard on the glass sliding door before he drove off...
She was in a bit of pain as the can hit her chest... but she got up, cleaned the whole house of rice and the soft drink, which was on the wall, floor, sofa, and carpet. After cleaning up, she knows he will not want to sleep in the same room as her because he will normally sleep downstairs in the hall whenever they argued. So she decided to sleep in the other room... She could not sleep as she was thinking, "Why has he become like this? What is going on? How could he get physical with her? and Where is he?"
She soon slept off, though waking up every hour or so... by the time she woke up to get ready for work, she noticed that he is back and sleeping in the bedroom. She was still quite shocked over what happened... the whole day at work, she was disturbed by the incident and according to her... towards the end of the day in the office, she actually searched online on how to commit suicide.
She said this is not the first time she felt like committing suicide after going out with this boyfriend. She never did it because she thought of her father... she let the thought slip and went for dinner with her sister... after dinner, she went home, tidied the house and boyfriends clothes, which is everywhere. She then went back to the other room, which is her bedroom now... and thought about a lot of things like "Should I still stay," "Will he change," "Actually what happened?," "Will it get worse after they get married?," "Will he really hit me someday?," "Will I get killed?," "When he said he will be a bastard from now on, did he mean he will cheat?"
All these were running in her head, and female said that she was surprised that this time she did not feel like crying... she did tear a bit, but not cry... I guess she was still in shock and she has actually given up hope, which explains her not crying and her suicidal thoughts. I told her when she has those thoughts, think of her father... and I told her that she has a choice to what is next... she is the expert in her life, and she is in control of it. Thus, she has the control to make decisions. She just have to stand up and be brave... and the session went on with planning together what she could do next depending on what she wants...
No comments:
Post a Comment